Friday, 26 February 2016

Young & Married

Hello my lovelies,

Six months into being married and some could say we are still in the 'honeymoon' period and everything is all rosy and sweet. But every stage within a relationship or marriage are as important as each other. So being a newlywed (6 months already) a frequent question we are always asked "how is married life". . . And to be honest it's always the same reply in return almost as if it's been rehearsed. "It's been really good you know, great having someone to be around, blah, blah blah. . ."

But what would happen if one day that response wasn't the same, what if it was actually negative how would you react? Luckily that is not the case for me, being married has been the BEST choice I've ever made after accepting Jesus into my life. Learning to love someone as you love yourself, even when they leave their dirty boxers or socks around the bedroom can be a challenge, sometimes you want to pick up that sock and throw it at his head and sometimes you may do (promise that's not me, LOL). But there is an intimacy within loving someone as you love yourself, caring and protecting them as you would do to yourself and putting their needs before yours. That is LOVE! 

Before we got married we went on a marriage preparation course held by Holy Trinity Brompton, if you are considering getting married or engaged I highly recommend the course and it's not limited to christians it's for everyone. Some of the things I loved about the course is that it really made me think about the marriage I wanted to have, and my expectations from the man I am marrying. It made me understand his needs and expectations of marriage and his expectations of me as his wife. 

In the marriage preparation course it covered a subject called love languages; these are the 5 ways that a person can feel and receive love, which are:
- Acts of service
- Words of affirmation
- Quality time
- Receiving gifts
- Physical touch 
(If you'd like to know yours there'a an online quiz

Knowing what my husbands love languages are really made it easier for me to understand how he perceives love. If you know Kai he is super affectionate and loves to be hugged on and I am pretty much the opposite, like my personal space especially after a long day at work. Before doing the quiz I just thought that was just him being annoying and would often push him off or run away (so bad of me). But I had to work on that as it was a big thing to my husband I had to put my ways to the side to allow him to feel loved, love is a two way street. 

No marriage is perfect, but if you can love a person despite their and your imperfections, two imperfectly people can make something perfectly beautiful! 

Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.
1 Peter 4:8

So to answer the question "How is married life", it has been a beautiful challenge which I wouldn't replace for anything! I have married a loving, caring and thoughtful man who loves me, despite my mood swings and nip-pickiness and I am honoured to share my world with him! That's how married life is doing. . . 

. . .put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.

Colossians 3:14


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