Saturday, 18 February 2017

Young & Married - Marriage isn't a Destination

Hey lovelies!

So..... Quick disclaimer, this topic has been on my heart for quite some time now and to be honest I was procrastination about putting it out. A it can be a touchy subject and I didn't want to cause any offence and to be honest I've only been married for 18 months now so many will feel that I really do not even qualify to share such a message but you know what it's been on my heart for so long I just have to!

Marriage is NOT a destination!!!! 

I repeat Marriage is NOT A DESTINATION! It's a journey, that (hopefully should) never end till one of you is six foot under (sorry to be so blunt). 

But marriage is a journey! Along that journey you may have wide roads, narrow paths, dead ends and  steep hills but you know what, YOU can make it through! 

I've watched some shows and sometimes hear people saying, "Yeah once I get married, that's it I'll be ok", "Once I'm married I'll be happy, that's my dream", "I just want to be married". But you know what being married is not just a check box to say you've done it, to mark it off your bucket list and move on to the next accomplishment.

Everyone can GET married, but not so many can STAY married. 
Which is such a shame, in this day in age many people want things fast, now, instant. But the problems that you may face in your marriage cannot always be solved so quickly. Sometimes wounds are cut so deep they can take months, even years to heal. Does that mean if your partner is not able to 'get over it' when you want and as quickly as you want that you give up? 


Just means you need to show more LOVE, COMPASSION and TIME to your spouse. 
Sometimes that may look like taking time out of your busy schedule to seek wise council from a trusted pastor or marriage councillor or taking time out of your busy schedule PERIOD to spend QUALITY time with your spouse to reignite the love you once had. Running from conflict will never make it better, it just creates distance, negative thinking and sometimes bitterness. But tackling the situation face on with UNDERSTANDING and RESPECT will likely get a positive response. 

However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. 
Ephesians 5:33 (NIV)

Marriage is a sacred gift from God, which many people forget these days and don't actually respect, it is a union between a man and a woman that needs to honoured and not just seen as some piece of paper, a legal document for if one passes away provides you with some financial stability, or for all members of the family to have the same last name. 

Marriage whether between a christian couple or not will go through some difficult times, I've often heard of couples who have cohabited for years and then one day decided to get married and have realised that from the day they said, "I Do" has been harder than when they were just living together.
Because God LOVES marriage and anything God loves you know who is not going to be pleased about it. . . 

Conflict is inevitable in any relationship, there will be hard times but it is how you conduct yourself when the conflict arises is where the issue can lay.

In the same way, you husbands must give honour to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered.                                                                                                                               1 Peter 3:7 (NLT)


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